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We’re already half way through 2019. Can you believe it? It means that there are some exciting times coming for people. One of the big events that people will be having this year is their weddings. If you’re planning to say I do in 2019, you’re probably doing a lot of research on what will be in for weddings this coming year. We have written about some of the wedding trends for 2019. If you’re planning to say I do in 2019, you’re probably doing a lot of research on what will be in for weddings this coming year.
Planning a wedding should be a joyous project. Some have the money …and prefer to place the entire process in the hands of a professional Wedding planner, but for many this is a work of love …and very much a part of your big day. If you want to be the Wedding planner yourself, then at least get some help …and the good news is that help is at hand – starting with this article, which gives you 7 wedding planning essentials:
We trust that these 7 wedding planning essentials, without going into too much detail, will help to ensure you have an enjoyable wedding, because your day needs to be special. A highly detailed wedding planner is advisable though and one is available online from the excellent wedding venue Valverde Eco hotel. Check it out …and happy wedding planning!
For more advice on how to plan the before and the during the wedding click here to download our Ultimate Wedding Planner.
Sometimes the best advice comes from recognizing the old adage that you can learn the most from avoiding other’s mistakes – sort of like having a role model in reverse! Planning weddings is not the easiest thing and the importance of getting it right is so vital that, before you even start, perhaps we should review the areas in which others have failed. So, with a genuine desire to ensure that your wedding is as special as it can be, here are, in our view, the top 10 wedding planning blunders – and how to avoid them:
1) Choosing the wrong day – How many weddings have you attended that have been interrupted because it’s the final day of the World cup? …and I’m sure that there has been more than one occasion you have declined a wedding invitation because two friends have booked the same day! Yes it can happen, so do your homework.
2) Not allowing enough time – Following on from the last point, make sure you choose a day that gives you plenty of time to plan the wedding. You may be in a hurry to tie the knot, but don’t end up with a knot in your stomach because time is running out on you. Work backwards and plan a timeline first – then decide on the day.
3) Inviting the wrong people – This is a very sensitive issue. Discuss it at length with your spouse and ensure everyone who is important to both of you has been included. Have a ‘guest list with a check list’ to ensure no-one important has been missed.
4) Not observing family tradition – Although your wedding should be very much based on your personal preferences, remember that there may be certain family traditions that need to be observed – even if it’s just a prayer or a traditional dance, don’t step on your in-laws toes at the outset, by ignoring family tradition.
5) Choosing the wrong venue – This is a big one and a common one. So many tears have been shed because the bridal couple chose a venue purely to fulfil some dream type of location and ignored all the other vital aspects of the venue’s versatility, professionalism, expertise etc. When choosing your perfect wedding venue, ensure it has a great track record of hosting many successful weddings.
6) Leaving out important service providers – It actually happens, the big day arrives but the photographer doesn’t – the Bride says the Groom booked him/her and the groom says it was the Brides responsibility – Ouch! Tears before the honeymoon! Ensure there is a service provider checklist and one person is held responsible for all wedding planning.
7) Not checking on service provider credentials – Then there is the Photographer that does arrive, but he/she has obviously never shot a wedding and doesn’t even have a plan to ensure all aspects of the photography hare covered. Even if service providers come highly recommended, ensure that you interview them all personally to make sure of their credentials and you are on the same page.
8) Not signing contracts – Then there was the photographer that never arrived because he/she had double booked weddings and yours pays the least! Well, if you had been the one with a watertight contract legally binding him/her to a fat compensation fee on failure to arrive, I think he/she would be there! Have contracts with all service providers.
9) Blowing the budget – Possibly this one should have been first! As the fees start to add up, so many people find that they had underestimated costs and before they know it they’re taking a loan to try to make the big day happen. Not a good way to start a marriage. Have a solid budget that covers everything at the outset of the planning, …and stick to it!
10) Not hiring/using a wedding planner – Many people find out that they possibly should have just hired a good wedding planner in the first place, but if you feelyou can’t afford it or you really want to do it yourself, then at least use a good online wedding planner, like that provided free of charge by excellent wedding venue Valverde Eco hotel. It is detailed, contains great advice and covers every aspect of the aforementioned top 10 wedding planning blunders – and how to avoid them.
Happy wedding planning –and good luck!
For more advice on how to plan the before and the during the wedding click here to download our Ultimate Wedding Planner.
7 good tips on who should really be in the wedding party
Many married couples to be have sleepless nights about who should be in the wedding party ….and sadly a few arguments too. Why let this question cause you to have bags under the eyes come the big day, when there are just a few questions you need to ask yourself to help you decide. So here are 7 good tips on who should really be in the wedding party.
So, it’s really not necessary to have those sleepless nights or arguments at all. It simply takes a little careful thought, the tolerance that only true love can inspire and these 7 good tips on who should really be in the wedding party.
For more advice on how to plan the before and the during the wedding click here to download our Ultimate Wedding Planner.
So he’s popped the question, placed a ring on your finger and it is now official – you’re engaged to be married! Exciting times …and also a time that immediate questions start to be asked about the whole process to follow. One of the first will be “Should we have an engagement party?” Well, it’s one of those questions that may be best answered with a question …or a few actually …so ask yourselves…
Is it expected? – The answer to this is a resounding ‘No.’ Remembering that not all proposals are even made with an ‘engagement’ period in mind, engagement itself is not even considered to be absolutely necessary. Your family and friends will be happy to celebrate this time with you, but should not expect an engagement party and will understand that you have bigger priorities at this time.
Can we afford it? – The cost of your wedding, unless you are among the privileged few to whom money is no object, will be a major fact to consider …so do your sums before you even consider an engagement party, as it is a ‘nice to have’, rather than a ‘has to happen’. Remember there will be other parties as part of the run up to the wedding, which are considered to be traditional and more important than this one.
Are we ‘jumping the gun?’ – This is a question that some couples may might find absurd and even refuse to answer. They are engaged and therefore absolutely fixed on a fairly immediate marriage to follow! That may be so, but you may also be one of those couples that see engagement as a fairly long term, ‘trial period’ of cementing your relationship before an absolutely final decision of when to be married is made. If you are the latter, possibly having an engagement party is premature? It’s your call.
If we go ahead, do we invite everyone that will be at the wedding? – If you do, you will be the exception. Very few people can afford to have a very large engagement party, but that aside, an engagement party is usually an occasion just shared with immediate family and very close friends. It can be a small, cosy and far less costly affair. It’s not a bad idea to look for a versatile wedding venue that can accommodate an intimate party, as well as the main event, so you can get a feel for the place before the big day.
We hope that question “Should we have an engagement party?” has been answered for you with these questions, but always keep in mind that the only thing that is ‘set in stone’ about any wedding is that the Bride and Groom show up on the day and have the kind of wedding that they want to enjoy. Pretty much anything else is up to you, so go with your heart ….and your wallet!
Complete wedding cake checklist
A wedding cake is a very traditional part of a couple’s wedding celebration and the cutting of the cake is the first deed the couple is expected to tackle – and accomplish – together.
Your wedding cake will need to fit into the overall style and theme of the wedding day. When speaking to the chef or baker, convey your preferences as to whether you would like a contemporary or traditional, ornate or simple design. You may not want a tiered cake at all and instead choose a single layer cake, or even go with cake pops or individual cupcakes to hand out to guests.
Tiers to tower
When choosing a tiered cake, consider the different shapes available, such as round, square, rectangular, hexagonal or so on. You can also mix the shapes up, although the most pleasing combination to the eye is a larger base working up in size reductions to a smaller top tier.
Size of the slice
In bygone days, the size of the wedding cake was chosen in order to convey the wealth and social standing of the family. Today however, the couple orders the size of the cake according to the number of servings required to cater for their guests. In general, three tiers will serve 50-100 guests. So, if you’re having 150 or more guests, you’ll likely need four or more tiers; alternatively consider ordering a three-tiered cake and then making up the rest of the slices with a sheet cake, which can be sliced up discreetly in the kitchen. If you have a small guest list but still want a tall-tiered cake, you can have your cake baker create the bottom layer out of Styrofoam and decorate it to look like the rest of the cake.
Not everyone likes fruit cake – the usual filling of wedding cakes due to the firm consistency offered up – however you don’t need to choose fruit cake at all. The main point of your wedding cake should be to have the most flavourful offering that you like. If you like sponges then have that. If you would like an ice-cream cake then have that! Once you have determined the filling of your cake then you can determine the additional flavours.
Easy on the eye
Your cake can be created to perfectly match or complement your wedding day colours, however stay away from using primary or bold colours in the icing and rather choose the softer shades of your wedding day colours that are more appealing to the palate.
The toppings can include the colourful accents, with natural flowers or ribbon, textures and decorative accents such as lace, monograms or pieces of art. For example you could add a meaningful family heirloom, a representation of you and your partners favourite hobby, or something in theme with your locale or wedding day, such as coral, grapes, snowflakes, daisies or heather.
For more advice on how to make sure the cake fits your overall theme click here to download our Ultimate Wedding Planner.
Engagement: How to deal with jealous friends
Nothing can quite match that moment when your partner proposes to you! Your heart leaps and soars and your mind thrills to be loved by the person you love and who wants to spend the rest of their life with you.
Sadly, when you announce to the world your happy news, you might find that not everyone is as equally thrilled. Not matter what their reason may be; a gracious bride should be as understanding as possible of her friends’ and family feelings – but only up to a point.
If it is one of your girlfriends, they may be fighting the green monster of jealousy, especially if they are still single and want to be married; or if they are already married but unhappy in their partnership.
If your friends aren’t being rude about it to you, you might want to consider tackling the fine line between talking about your wedding and not rubbing it in your friend’s face. If you friends happen to be a little possessive over their time with you and fear that they are now going to lose you altogether because you are married, you will need to make it clear that you will always need your girlfriends and that you would love their help in planning the wedding.
Make a point however, not to overwhelm your girlfriends with wedding details and wedding talk and be able and willing to talk about other things, listen and genuinely care about what is going on in your friends’ lives too.
You have heard the saying ‘choose your battles’ and in some instances the best response to personal comments about your impending marriage is to simply ignore them. If a friend or a family member does overstep the mark and becomes obnoxious, you will need to handle it immediately. You may want to ask them in a direct and unemotional way why they are being so negative. Chances are they will back off when confronted. Alternatively they may be able to voice their fears; in which case further discussion and understanding on both your parts can allay the situation completely.
In extreme cases, it may be necessary for you to cut ties with the person altogether, especially if they show no signs of being able to contribute towards your happiness or the success of the day. Weddings can be stressful enough without someone always trying to undermine you and sabotage your happiness. Learn to read the signs and establish your boundaries as to what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour.
Also consider that in any situation, it is always a 50/50 balance of responsibility for our words and actions and this may be a good opportunity to also take a step back and look at your own behaviour. Are you perhaps being a Bridezilla and taking your attention-seeking behaviours to an unbearable point by always monopolising the conversation with your wedding plans, insisting friends throw lavish showers or pay for expensive wedding events. While your wedding may be the most important thing to happen to you, it can be annoying when you lose sight of your friend’s lives through selfish thinking and self-obsessed behaviour.
Your friend’s are your friends for a good reason and both of you need to do your upmost best not to let your wedding event cut the ties that have served you both up until now.
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Who’s who in the Wedding Party?
Here is a quick guide of the titles and roles of those usually included in your wedding party.
A male attendant to the groom, the best man is valet, personal aide and advisor all rolled into one. Duties include getting the groom to the ceremony on time; signing the couple’s marriage register; and holding the bride’s wedding ring at the altar. He is also usually renowned for his toasting skills (humour works well here) and dancing savoir faire (he may be required to dance with your mother).
A support team of friends and female family members who work well together, the bridesmaids are usually headed up by the maid of honour. Choose friends who you want by your side when completing pre-wedding tasks such as addressing invitations, making table favours, planning the hen’s party and more.
Father of the Bride
Not just a walking wallet and the guy who gets to foot the bill, the father of the bride can also acquire a myriad of to-do’s along the way, such as airport transfers, and co-ordinating maps and directions to the site, along with his toasting and hosting tasks.
Father of the Groom
Traditionally, the father of the groom pays for a handful of major items such as the rehearsal dinner or the bar bill on the day. He can also step in to carry out support tasks such as escorting the elder generation to their places, addressing problematic service at the venue, along with providing general moral support to the father of the bride.
Usually proceeding the bride down the aisle while scattering flower petals from a basket (or carrying a pomander if they church doesn’t allow for petals), the flower child can be aged anywhere between three and eight. Once they have completed their role, they usually join their parents for the ceremony. They may also offer confetti to the guests to be thrown outside the church following the ceremony.
A handful of male family and friends who assist the groom, the groomsmen are integral to the planning and preparing for the big day, especially in the organisation of the stag party (it’s the best man who foots the bill), decorating the honeymoon car, flirting with single ladies at the reception and offering services such as ushering and direction for confused guests.
Junior Bridesmaids/Junior Groomsmen
Ranging between 9 and 16 years of age, they fulfil the same tasks as their adult counterparts (except for involvement in any X-rated stag or hen parties). Their dresses are more demure versions of the bridesmaid dresses, while the young groomsmen get to wear a tux like the adults.
Maid/Matron/Man of Honour
The bride’s right-hand woman throughout the duration of the planning process and the big day, the maid or matron of honour (depending on whether they have been married or not) provides morale support to the bride. She also leads the bridesmaids, heads up the bridal shower and manages numerous details on the day, which include helping the bride to get dressed, toasting the bride and groom, signing the marriage register, adjusting the bride’s train at the altar, holding her bouquet during vows, and overseeing the collection of gifts at the reception.
Mother of the Bride
The nature of the bride’s mother’s role is entirely up to the bride. She may double as wedding planner, guest list moderator, traditional hostess, fashion advisor and general all-round champion for the success of the overall event.
Mother of the Groom
A possible doppelganger of the mother of the bride, the groom’s mom can step in to take on any of the bride’s mom’s responsibilities if she’s up to it. To prevent each from stepping on the other’s toes, the pre-nuptials should plan clearly defined to-do lists for each ahead of time. She is usually escorted down the aisle during the prelude.
This is the cleric or official who performs the marriage ceremony. Examples include a priest, a rabbi, a minister, or a judicial officer.
A child aged between 4 and 8 years, who walks down the aisle just before the flower girl carrying a small velvet pillow with two wedding bands tied to it (usually replicas are used in the event of the real rings getting lost).
A Jewish term describing anyone close to the bride and groom who helps them plan and prepare for marriage. In many Jewish weddings, there is no traditional wedding party, but certain members of the shushavim (a mom, a sister, or best friend) might perform similar tasks.
A Greek assimilation of the groomsman, in traditional Eastern Orthodox weddings, the vratimi – the groom’s male friends – help the koumbaro carry out his traditional role and perform various rituals.
A Muslim term for male family or friends who help prepare the groom for and participate in the wedding. Among Moroccan Muslims, it’s common for the hattabin to propose to the bride on the groom’s behalf.
In Jewish weddings, individuals close to the bride and groom (usually family members or close friends) may hold up the huppah poles during the ceremony. They are often part of the shushavim
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The 5 ‘A’s to look for in a class ‘A’ wedding venue
There is a little more to choosing your ideal wedding venue than just looking at a few photographs in the latest copy of ‘Beautiful Brides’, or simply going on your friend’s word of mouth recommendation. The venue needs to tie up with a few vital aspects of the event – i.e. the date, the area, the type of wedding you want to have and of course what meets your budget ….to name a few …so to help you try to save some time reviewing hundreds of venues that just will not suit you, here are what we call the 5 ‘A’s to look for in a class ‘A’ wedding venue….
Area and accessibility – One of the first things most couples decide on is where they would like to be married. It may be close to home to be more accessible for a large family and many friends, or it may be a remote destination, somewhere romantic …or maybe just difficult to get to, because you don’t really want too many people there anyway! Either way there’s no point in looking at wedding venues in Cape Town if you’ve decided to get married in the bush. Occasionally couples hear of exceptional wedding venues and base their decision on that, but it’s unusual, so step 1 is to decide where the special event will be …and then seek the possibilities in that area.
Availability – Usually the very first things that most couples do actually, is set the date. This often is chosen for a special meaning and so very seldom does the wedding venue’s availability dictate this. Therefore having presumably already set your date, before you even visit the wedding venue you’re interested in, find out if it will be available on that day.
Affordability – So you have now found a few wedding venues in the area in which you wish to be married and they are available for the big day. Before going on site visits or starting to discuss details, unless you are amongst the lucky ones to whom money is no object, find out if the venue you seek is affordable! It’s not just about a basic venue hire fee, but many wedding venues have minimum numbers that they will accept. This factor and many others affect your bottom line, so if you, like most others, have a budget too work on, get this clear before you waste too much time looking or negotiating.
Accomodation – The chances are at least the Bridal couple will want to stay at the venue on the night of the celebrations and possibly many more of your guests. Beautiful, romantic accommodation must be available if required and adequate accommodation at, or very close to, the venue should be checked also for availability, affordability and most importantly if the accommodation is Adequate?
Adaptability – We had to find another ‘A’, but this should probably more accurately be ‘Suitability’. Having ticked the first 4 crucial boxes, the bottom line is whether the venue can handle every aspect of your special event. Are there beautiful surroundings, photo-opportunities, good catering, decor and all related facilities supplied by the venue or available to the venue? Is this venue exactly what you want …or can it, at very least, Adapt itself to your needs? Check these things out carefully.
Just one final A that has not been mentioned and doesn’t really fall under all this practical advice (but may be the one thing you’ll choose your venue for anyway) is ‘Amazing Ambience’ …Make sure you choose a place that has it in Abundance, as this is after all, your one and only special day and you deserve to host it at a ‘Class ‘A’ wedding venue!
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For more info and ideas on how to plan your wedding from A to Z like a wedding pro click here to download our ultimate wedding planner written by Pamina Bohrer, owner of Valverde who has been in the industry over 14 years.